Wish you were in an open relationship? So do many canadians

More than one in 10 Canadians would like to be in an open relationship, according to our recent study of 2,003 Canadian adults. Open relationships are romantic relationships in which the

people involved agree to allow some sexual and/or emotional and romantic interactions with more than one partner. Open relationships can include polyamory, swinging and a myriad of other

individualized relationship agreements. More and more, these types of relationships are featured in news stories in Canada, and it seems they may be becoming more common. However, until now

the only reliable data have come from the United States. In U.S. studies, anywhere from two per cent to four per cent of adults report being in an open relationship The study I conducted

with Trevor Hart (department of psychology, Ryerson University) and Malcolm Fairbrother (department of sociology, Umeå University) is the first to provide a reliable report on how common

open relationships are outside of the U.S. We found that 2.4 per cent of all Canadians, and four per cent of those who are romantically attached, report being in an open relationship. Twenty

per cent of participants reported prior engagement in an open relationship and 12 per cent reported open as their ideal relationship type. Participants were almost three times more likely

to say that their ideal relationship type is an open one, than to report being in one. HOW MEN AND WOMEN DIFFER Men were no more likely than women to say they are currently in an open

relationship. However, significantly more men (25 per cent) said that they had been in an open relationship at some point in their life, compared with women (15 per cent). And, whereas 18

per cent of men listed open as their ideal relationship type, only six per cent of women did. This is a significant difference, and if true, could result in a real source of conflict in

heterosexual couples. What we don’t know, and this deserves to be explored in future research, is whether men and women hold the same preferences across sexual orientations. We were unable

to ask participants about their sexual orientation, so we don’t know if gay, bisexual and heterosexual men are all equally likely to want to be in an open relationship. The same holds true

for lesbians, bisexual and heterosexual women. 20- TO 40-YEAR-OLDS PREFER IT OPEN Individuals in open relationships were younger than those in other types of relationships. Participants who

reported that open is their ideal relationship type were also younger than those who did not endorse open as their ideal relationship type. Twenty- to 40-year-olds were most likely to be in

an open relationship and to report open as their ideal type of romantic relationship. When it comes to relationship satisfaction, participants in open relationships are no more or less

satisfied than those in monogamous relationships. They both reported being “somewhat” to “very” satisfied. What was maybe most interesting is that having a match between one’s actual

relationship type and one’s preferred relationship type was associated with the highest levels of satisfaction — for both open and monogamous relationships. CLINICAL APPLICATIONS We hope

that future studies will tell us how common open relationships are in other countries as well as among gay and bisexual men and women. One of the questions people often ask about open

relationships is: “Can they last?” There is some evidence that the length of open relationships with primary partners may in fact be greater than that of monogamous relationships. More

research into the length and health of open relationships could go a long way to reducing the stigma that often surrounds these kinds of relationships. The findings also have clinical

implications for mental health providers. Given that a significant minority of the sample preferred open relationships, it may be useful for clinicians to consider and investigate ways to

make it easier for couples to talk about their relationship preferences in therapy.