My girlfriend does nothing to help

A. It’s OK to leave. I assume you’ve talked to your girlfriend about your concerns over the years. My guess is that you’ve discussed what’s missing at home – from your perspective – and that

you’ve asked for more help. It shouldn’t be a shock for her to hear you’re unhappy. She’s having trouble too. You _can’t _show her more affection because it’s time to break up. Make it

clear that you no longer want to be a couple. Honestly, it doesn’t sound like this woman has been your girlfriend – in your mind – for a long time. She is a housemate, and that arrangement

is no longer working. If you have the means, help her get started with a more independent living situation. Give her a boost to make it possible. You say she can’t make it on her own, but is

there anyone else in her life? Family? A friend who could be a roommate? She could also find a stranger to share her space. This is why people _have_ roommates – to make a living situation

affordable. Tell her how you feel, come up with some moving dates, and make it happen. Use your energy to focus on improving your life. Call on any supportive people in your community to

help make this easier. – Meredith Readers? How do you leave when someone is used to having your help?